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Lord, we pray for the LGBTQ+ community. We pray that your radical love would encounter them and they would see themselves how you see them. Lord, heal any wounds that they might have from the church and have them see your rightly.

Three hundred emails and more than 50 phone calls in just eight weeks: either I had been targeted by a spam factory, or someone desperately needed my help.

It was a cry for help, from a young man who is too much like me. I fell for one of the biggest medical frauds in history in April 1983 when I agreed to what they call “sex change” surgery.

This young man was in his mid-20s and, in the spring of 2021, concluded that he had one great hope in life: to be a husband and father with a family of his own. For him — let’s call him Adrian — that conclusion was not easily reached. Sexually abused as a child, diagnosed with schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, and assailed with relentless post-traumatic stress disorder, his life has been hard.

His mother recently passed; his father rejected him after his forays into drugs, homelessness, and gender-confused behaviors; his older brother died only months ago. Adrian’s life had been in deep despair for some time.

The Trans Agenda Majorly Failed Adrian

Then came an unexpected answer: doctors and therapists told him his mental chaos was driven by gender dysphoria. Swiftly following that diagnosis, the doctors and therapists affirmed his social transition to female and prescribed feminizing hormones. His rebirth into a “trans” identity was praised and celebrated by new circles of friends. . . .

That was March 2021. A scant five months later, he reached out to me, extremely upset, and wanting to restore what had been inalterably taken from him. “All I want is to be a husband and a father,” he said, “I want to detransition.”

His hundreds of emails and phone calls were one extended plea to restore his male reality. It resonated painfully with my own experience of suffering regrettable, unnecessary surgery. Yet having successfully gone back to life as a male allowed me to provide comfort and encouragement to Adrian that his life, too, can get better, although detransitioning is neither easy nor quick.

How Trying to Be ‘Laura’ Failed Me

When I agreed to so-called “sex change” surgery in 1983, I had suffered 25 years of psychological distress, confused about my gender identity. Twenty-five years and no escape, until I sought out the advice of top experts in the novel field of gender identity, a surgeon and a gender therapist. They assured me that realigning my male body to confirm my female feelings would heal my broken psyche.

This promise of a medical miracle was incredibly encouraging. But its reality played out differently: it took me eight years living as “Laura” to rediscover the truth. Sex is who I really am; gender is simply a feeling. No hormones, no surgery, and no feeling will ever be strong enough to undo the truth of being irrevocably male or female, which is established at conception.

The promise of being a true woman was a lie; the promise of improved mental health was fiction. The day I returned to understanding that I was a man began a long journey back to objective reality.

Psychosis and despair dogged me for much of that time. The physical toll and complications of the “sex change” surgery wore at me. Yet I would not relent in restoring reality as best I could. With the grace of a good woman who became my wife and a God who would not leave my side, today I am a sound and healthy male.

I wish that my story and suffering were unique. But they are not, and for many years my role has shifted to helping others detransition from a misperceived “gender identity” and to restore a life grounded in their male or female reality.

The Trans Industry Is Fraudulent Malpractice

These surgeries amount to fraud in so many ways. Medical doctors and surgeons have never objectively proven the effectiveness of any gender-affirming technique in relieving the mental stress — termed “gender dysphoria” — of a trans-identifying person.

For Adrian, the future it offered was a fraud. Nothing was said about his impending, permanent sterility, or the true burdens and impacts of having to take cross-sex hormones for the rest of his life. No effort was made to deal with the mental health issues detected and diagnosed by the provider’s own staff before clearing him for surgery.

If this sounds like malpractice to you, it sounds like it to me, too. Thankfully, Adrian is now working with an attorney to gain justice. But Adrian hopes for more than that — that exposing the dangerous, ineffective treatments to the public eye and legal liability will protect the next Adrian, or the next Laura, from making the mistake of a lifetime.

That mistake was believing the doctors’ tale that counterfeit womanhood would be a real solution. And counterfeit it is. Adrian’s breast implants are purely cosmetic; they will never serve the motherly function of breastfeeding. His “bottom surgery” is no more a gateway to a womb and new life than a cul-de-sac is a freeway on-ramp. Where once was a man with the great hope of fathering and raising a child, surgeons left a faux woman lacking any capacity to procreate.

The Trans Agenda Ignores Stories Like Adrian’s

Adrian and I are scarcely alone in having erred so deeply, been misled so wildly, and working so hard to restore our true selves after suffering devastating “gender affirmation” surgery. When I wrote “Trans Life Survivors,” I had to sift through hundreds of similar, agonizing stories to focus on a manageable number of 30 detransitioners’ stories.

Thousands of sex change regretters like Adrian are not counted in the medical literature. No regret database exists where regretters officially can make their complaints known to researchers or even to their own medical providers.

Medical researchers say “regret is rare,” based on junk science. They fail to disclose that up to 90 percent of trans-identifying people included in research studies have been lost to follow-up, according to the book “Principles of Transgender Medicine and Surgery.” Any conclusion about the percentage who regret is based on the 10 percent or so that could be found: hardly a meaningful number.

Consider this: my wife and I have spoken directly to, exchanged emails with, and sat directly across from thousands of sex-change regretters. Adrian is just one among the thousands I have had the pleasure of knowing personally. Not one has ever been included in any systematic, rigorous research. . . .

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(Excerpt from The Federalist. Article written by Walt Heyer. Photo Credit : UnSplash)

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Roxanne Rice
January 12, 2022

This is so incredibly sad. My heart goes out to all those who have been so deceived. Many times this happens because of previous sexual abuse. And today our public schools are overtly teaching our children to be confused.

This is where the church can play a pivotal role in restoring these hurting people. We not only have the truth about our identity in Christ, we have the limitless power of God to heal and restore.

John 3.17 speaks so powerfully to this. “For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved.”. We need to receive these hurting people with love and compassion, not the rejection and condemnation we so often exhibit. Jesus came to deliver them, to set them fully free, to be whole and filled with joy.

May God raise up many more compassionate and competent people, like this author, who can minister life and restoration to these precious people Jesus died for. Amen.

Caroline Yurges
January 12, 2022

This whole thing is so disturbing. My son and his wife are celebrating their ten year old girl’s decision be a boy. They’ve announced this on Facebook and now they’ve very active in the LGBTQ agenda.

    Roxanne Rice
    January 12, 2022

    Praying for your family. Take heart, God is faithful!


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