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Lord, help us not to become disheartened in our sufferings, but to know that we will see Your goodness in this life — in spite of anything.
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Sometimes I watch things happening in our world and it brings me great disappointment. I experienced that recently, and I’m sure many of you have as well. However, I have learned a few things about disappointment over the years, and therefore I knew I must not allow it to take hold in my heart or mind.

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Hope deferred makes the heart sick … (Proverbs 13:12 NKJV).

I have read this scripture many times over the past several years. One year I lived in disappointment to the point that I was heartsick. This caused me to fall into a deep, dark place — a place it took me months to crawl back out of. Before that experience, I did have a few disappointments, just as everyone else has, but this was different. I went through a season, lasting several years, that brought one disappointment after another. It seemed to be never-ending.

Let’s consider the following terms:

Hope — what we are waiting for, hoping for, and expecting;

Sick — to be weak, ill, diseased;

Deferred — something drawn out, that drags on, that is postponed.

These definitions alone sound like a description of the past two years in our nation, do they not? Another rendering of the passage above makes all this even clearer: Unrelenting disappointment leaves you heartsick … (MSG).

That was what I had experienced: unrelenting disappointment. I had gone through a season of attacks that lasted for years and seemed never to end; it simply wouldn’t stop, though through it all, I continued to trust God, to cry out to God, to worship God — that is, until the last hit came. That’s the one that seemed to take me out.

My young brother Jesse died.

I was so disappointed that I really didn’t even know what to do. The next few days were filled with arrangements, his funeral, and grief. Without realizing it, I fell into a dark place. Fighting my way back from that final place of unrelenting disappointment was so difficult that I have never wanted to fight that fight again.

We Can Be Confident in the Lord

These days when disappointment tries to come, I don’t push it aside — I deal with it. I don’t allow it to get into my mind or heart. Unresolved disappointment is dangerous. Disappointment in God causes unbelief in His goodness and restricts His blessing. We simply can’t allow disappointment to hang around. I am not saying that this is an easy thing to do; it is very difficult to go through a disappointing season and still believe you will see the goodness of God in your life, but it is possible.

One psalm says: I would have lost heart, unless I had believed that I would see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living (Psalm 27:13 NKJV). Another version phrases it: I am still confident of this: I will see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living (NIV 1999).

The promises of God reveal the heart and character of God. What we believe affects our heart, our attitude, and our expectation. If we allow our minds to feed on what God hasn’t done, it creates a place for offense and unbelief. Don’t do that. It is a trick of the enemy.

The truth is, God is always good. There may be things we do not understand and never will, but that does not change the character of God. In the very midst of disappointment, instead of allowing it to get inside you, feed on the word of God and on His faithfulness.

A few years back, a friend of mine had cancer. She had only a couple days to live. When I visited her in the hospital, I was devastated. She hadn’t told anyone about her diagnosis, although she fought it for a few years. I couldn’t believe that this woman, so Spirit-filled and so full of God, was dying. I was so disappointed in what I was seeing. And it got on the inside of me.

Cultivate His Faithfulness

When I left the hospital that day, God told me to get a book by Dodie Osteen, Healed of Cancer, and read it over and over until it drove out all disappointment and caused faith in His goodness and healing to be reestablished in my heart.

That’s what we must do when we are disappointed. Whatever the disappointment is, find scriptures that declare God’s will in the situation, and meditate on them. Feed on them. Eat of them until the word of God is bigger than the disappointment. Will it change the outcome? Perhaps not. But it will change your perspective of God and His faithfulness. Your perspective of God is what the enemy is after. That is what he was after with Adam and Eve in the Garden, and that is what he is after with you and me today.

Unrelenting disappointment makes the heart sick. Today, if you are heartsick, feed on God’s word. Dwell on His faithfulness. Ask Him to heal and restore your heart. He will do it for you.

I know.

He did it for me.

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Kim Potter is a writer and the founder of A New Thing Ministries, which sends a daily teaching to thousands of people all around the world. Her articles have appeared on The Elijah List, in Charisma, and on Spirit Fuel and iBelieve.com. Kim’s message is one of hope: She speaks to the hearts of those who have grown discouraged or disappointed by the circumstances of life, to impart that hope. Her daily inspirational writings can be accessed at www.anewthingministries.com. Photo Credit: Nik Shuliahin on Unsplash.

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May 26, 2023

Thank you for this, Kim. I had something similar happen to a family member a year ago. They passed away from a cancer we thought they’d been healed from. I’ve been struggling off and on on how to call God good still. He was faithful, I have many testimonies of this, but at the end it came down and ended so abruptly and in a way we did not see that my faith has wavered and the enemy attacks with the “What kind of God would allow this…?” and so on. I think one of the biggest trials in life of a Christian is can we still call God good through all this? Even when we don’t get the answer we want? I pray for my bothers and sisters in Christ who are struggling through such hard trials and especially the trials that drag on and on and seem endless or the hope deferred keeps happening. Praise God that we have Him to help us through the storm. God, please hold up my brothers and sisters in Christ and send them encouragement and grace to keep running the race set before them. Remind them that there is coming a day when this will all end and there will be no more tears or pain or the problems of this fallen earth. It will all be over in the blink of an eye. Thank you. In Jesus name, Amen.

Michael Guidera
May 22, 2023

After a lifetime of trying to change my circumstances to give me what I want, I finally realized that the purpose of my life is to serve God. Its not the other way around. Blessing have come my way. But these have been the result of seeking the Kingdom of God first. It is possible and now I fully accept that in serving God, it may appear that my mortal life experiences may not necessarily be in my best interests. Look at Stephen in Acts. A very gifted Christian with a deep love for God. God used him to preach to the Pharisees. They got angry and stoned him to death. He looked up and saw Jesus and said, “forgive them”. Who was there watching all of this drama? It was Saul, who became Paul. We do not always understand the ways of God. He is the potter, we are the clay.
Our focus on things of this world should never rise above the things that are eternal. In 1 Cor 15:19, ” If in Christ we have hope in this life only, we are of all people most to be pitied.” Paul is talking to Christians here. God has a bigger plan that transcends anything on this earth. That plan is to redeem His entire creation. We, the church, are being used to fulfill this plan. That is the gospel. It is time for us to get our priorities straight and get our eyes off the distractions that the enemy is throwing at us. All authority has been given to Christ. He has given us this authority as it pertains to our lives. Not the lives of those that are lost. The purpose of this power is to further His Kingdom on earth. Eventually, that Kingdom will be completed when Christ returns.
Let’s continue to pray for our leaders, but realize no matter what the outcomes are in the natural, God is using even the cosmic forces of evil to bring about His ultimate purposes for His Church, which is us. Pep talks are not going to bring lasting peace in our hearts when we are focused on all the problems we see around us. Let God transform our minds and see the bigger picture where our reward will be in the eternal life where we will rule and reign with Him forever.

May 22, 2023

Lord God, thwart the globalist agenda of the WHO and protect our freedoms of every kind throughout the entire world

November 15, 2022

Thank you for this article. I really needed to see this today.

The Prayer Sentry
November 14, 2022
November 13, 2022

Very timely and awesome message! Thank you!

The Prayer Sentry
November 13, 2022
November 12, 2022

So true. I am learning to deal with this too. For me, remembering that God is pure goodness and wants nothing but good for us is very comforting. Read Romans 8:28 !!! If we feel disappointed and that God doesn’t care, it’s because His thoughts are so high above ours that we can’t understand what is being accomplished by God. His ways are also far above ours. Read Isaiah 55:8,9. It’s also helpful to sing encouraging songs that we learn in church to lift our spirits. God is GOOD!!! All the time. 🥰🙏AMEN!!

    May 26, 2023

    “It’s also helpful to sing encouraging songs that we learn in church to lift our spirits.” Great reminder , NanJohnson! Thank you for that.

November 12, 2022

Thank you for sharing this encouragement. I agree 100% the Word of God, the Holy Scriptures are one of the best tool to lift us up from discouragement. ” And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart. ” Gal 6:9
With this election, I felt the Lord reminded me the battle is not flesh and blood…Ephesians 6: “Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. 11 Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the [b]wiles of the devil. 12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of [c]the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. 13 Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.”

Deb Wright
November 12, 2022

So good.

Matt Knighton
November 12, 2022

“Hope deferred makes the heart sick,” but as we guard our hearts we must make sure our hope is in Jesus, not on external circumstances. He is the God of ALL hope. We must “rejoice in the Lord.” The “joy of the Lord is our strength!” It’s easy to get our wires crossed; we must be very careful!

Gail Beegles
November 12, 2022

Thank you so much for this article. It is very heart felt, honest and truthful. I believe God wanted you to write this article to help me and others in this,world. It tells those people that they are not alone and that they can trust in our Gracious Heavenly Father!
Also, please pray for Colorado because the Democrats have corrupted this State. It really breaks my heart because they are Godless. Some Republicans didn’t vote or went independent. I pray that God will raise up Godly Christian people and leaders who will fight against this evil , stop abortion, stop legalizing Marijuana, magic mushrooms. I pray for a revival in this State and that people would really see the truth that abortion is the killing of innocent precious babies. That life begins at the moment of conception and that these Godless evil leaders change their lives and do what the Lord wants them to do. God help us! In Jesus Name, Amen ✝️

    November 12, 2022

    Gail, thank you for being a light and salt in your state. Lord bless you and the faithful remnants in your state. Be strong and and continue to pray, the Lord sees and knows those who are faithful to Him.

Thomas Centrella
November 12, 2022

Thank you for your honest, clear, heartfelt article. It is as if God commissioned you to write this letter to me (and, I imagine, many others).

God bless you.

Nancy Berkey
November 12, 2022

Please pray for Pennsylvania. The Democratic politicians in this state have corrupted themselves beyond measure. The Republicans are spineless. Oz and Mastriono conceded and will not fight this evil. The governor-elect wants to destroy more jobs and the economy. The senator -elect wants to release hardened criminals among the normal population. I pray that God will raise up godly Christian people and leaders who will stand up against this corruption in Pennsylvania and make it right. The women had something to do with this election outcome as well as they love abortion. I pray God will convict the heart of every woman and person who voted these wicked people in. I pray these people who believe in abortion WILL ACCEPT that every life from conception to death has a right to be born and live. May God help us. In the Holy Name of Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen☦️

    November 12, 2022

    Our Lord Jesus bless and empower you to be strong and continue to be a light and salt in your state!

    May 26, 2023

    Nancy Berkey,

    As we are praying that “people will accept that every life from conception to death has a right to be born and live” lets us also be praying that God raises up the people and provisions to help women keep and provide for those babies. It’s like we go half way and then stop. There needs to be a tangible answer to help provide in the natural as well for the needs of those women and babies. We have so many Christians praying for an end to abortion but not praying for answers on how to help when the mother chooses life. We can’t rely on our taxes to do all the heavy lifting through welfare. God please help us in tangible ways so that we can bring those tangible ways to help these women after they’ve chosen life for their babies. In Jesus name, amen.

      May 26, 2023

      Pregnancy Centers are all over the United States to assist every pregnant woman. They have access to doctors and every kind of prenatal care and support for the mother and child from first knowledge of the pregnancy to first year of school of the children! However if there was no care, abortion is still murder. The time to be concerned about getting pregnant is BEFORE the sex act that causes it unless both people are married and/or ready to accept the consequences which may be pregnancy!

Brian Lynch
November 12, 2022

Disappointment, at least on a temporary basis, among believers, is understandable. We are , after all, living in the End Times. I believe that things are happening exactly the way that they are supposed to. How we deal with the events around us will define the depth of our faith. I have felt disappointed at various times, especially in the last two years. What I try to focus upon, is that when Jesus returns to rule and reign for 1000 years, things WILL be fair. Until then, as long as mortal men are in charge, we will need to stay focused upon Jesus, and trust in His provision for us. If man could have fixed the mess that we are in, it would have happened by now. Everything that happens in the natural, is fickle, temporary, and subject to change. Jesus NEVER changes. Again, my focus needs to be upon Him, and no mortal being. Thank you, Lord Jesus!

November 12, 2022

Spent my election in a post-opt condition. Thanking the Lord that He is the healer. Not just of the body, mind you, but of the soul and spirit.
I see His enemy on tv, all dressed up, bragging, like he’s going somewhere or done something great. This world’s stuff is nothing but foolishness in the eyes of the Lord. Trying to impress each other with a new low. They never look up, cause if they did, they would see what I see, an army of angels watching over me, always watching, waiting for the moment, when the Father sends His Son.
Turn up the waves of prayer, heat the fires of heaven. God is watching over all and He is not afraid, neither should we fear. Praise His name.

    Nancy Berkey
    November 12, 2022

    Glory be to Jesus Christ! Glory be forever!☦️

Etta Danielson
November 12, 2022

Yes, I had a younger brother die. I prayed fervently for him. I felt like I would never be able to pray and believe for another person’s healing again. Praise the Lord, He brought me to the place where I could say “I trust You Lord, no matter what, I TRUST YOU”.

Vicki Rowland
November 12, 2022

Father, anytime we take our eyes off You and place them on things or on other people on our status, or our successes , that we may think are going to “redeem” us from the troubles we face…..we are defeated, because our priorities are displaced. Time and time again when we read the OT and watch in our mind’s eye how Your chosen people would obey Your commands and laws and be successful in their battles, because You, O Lord went before them to bring them that success, but then they would get overly confident in their soldiers, in their successes, in their numbers and be haughty in spirit and forget where their success truly came from. Sometimes we see their mistakes and say in our hearts,” didn’t they just see how God destroyed their enemies before them; didn’t they just see the miracles He wrought before their eyes; did they forget His power and majesty so quickly? And then, Father, You remind me of taking my eyes off You and instead putting them on mere man. Forgive us Father, and bring us to Your feet and worship, love and obey You ,confess our sins and leave everything at Your feet in submission to the Almighty Lord, because ultimately You are in control of all things and You have highly exalted Him and given Him the name which is above every name, that at the name of Jesus every knee will bow, of those in heaven, and of those on the earth and of those who are under the earth, and that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father, in whose name I pray. Amen

Linda k Rice
November 12, 2022

Disappointment or self pity, I turn to my VOM magazine and read about their joy. I receive joy in return. Just watched Heidi Baker’s Nifento yesterday.

BK Jackson
November 12, 2022

The loss of your young brother hits me directly. Disappointment with God is a very difficult thing to deal with. In the early 2000’s, my baby brother was diagnosed w/kidney disease. I prayed more fervently for his healing than anything else I’d ever prayed for to date. And I do mean earnestly. Instead of healing, he was dead at 31. That crushed me but there was more disappointment. It soon began to feel like there was a target on my family’s back because it seemed like every 2-3 years, another immediate family member was dying–older brother, father, mother.

By 2013, I couldn’t take it anymore & I walked away from church, from God, & decided if He wasn’t interested in me and mine, then I wasn’t interested in Him either. Seven years went by—I was unhappy with my choice, but still extremely disappointed that God didn’t seem to care. And in 2020 things got even worse with the pandemic but seeing the entire world plunge into absolute chaos brought me back to Him.

I can’t lie and say I understand why God appeared to ignore my pleadings all those times–it is still extremely disappointing. But what I can say is during that 7 year temper tantrum at God, I realized that my relationship with Him was the most important one I’ll ever have and I’m glad to come into His presence once again with prayer and spending time in His Word. All I can do is pray He will help me deal with the disappointments so that I don’t ever walk away again.

    Kim Potter
    November 12, 2022

    I understand completely. One year to the day after we buried my brother, my older sister went to sleep and never woke up again – it was a hard season – but God never left me, just as He never left you. All we can do is pray, seek His face and keep ourselves immersed in His word. This I know. He is faithful.

Joan Bartruff
November 12, 2022

Father, in Jesus’ Name, thank you a thousand times for Your Holy Word. After reading Kim’s wonderful article of encouragement I was led to turn to Joshua 1 to read account of how You, Lord, commanded Joshua to cross the Jordan into the Promised Land. Praise, honor, glory to Your Holy Name, Father, Son, Holy Spirit. So, You say to Your people today as You said to Joshua, “if we are afraid, or discouraged, You will never leave, or forsake us.” You tell us, “to be strong and courageous.” “Meditate on Your Word.” “Follow its commands.” “Do not be terrified, do not be discouraged for You, Lord, our God is with us wherever we go.” Thank You, Lord. Amen

Eunice Ross
November 12, 2022

Very well expressed! The focus on God will reveal greater and greater hope that is solid, and will not disappoint, the more clearly we SEE Him!

Beverly Rupe
November 12, 2022

Excellent. Most excellent!


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