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Father, we pray for all the youth growing up in our nation without a father. Bless them and protect them God, and bring an end to the culture of fatherlessness in our nation.

Analysis. Two days before Father’s Day, Fox News published an article by US Representatives Burgess Owens of Utah’s 4th Congressional District,  Byron Donalds of Florida’s 19th Congressional District, and former NFL great and current professor at the Fordham Gabelli School of Business Jack Brewer, entitled “America’s crisis is a lack of fathers.”

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A timely piece, it captures a hidden societal problem that has been brewing for some time. According to the article, a staggering 18.5 million children are currently growing up without fathers. That number is corroborated by The National Fatherhood Initiative, which further elaborates on the issue with an array of facts and statistics.

For example, children growing up without a father are more likely to have behavioral problems and are 279% more likely to carry guns and deal in drugs. Children without fathers are 2 times more likely to suffer from obesity. According to the article in Fox News, they are nine times more likely to drop out of school and five times more likely to live in poverty. 90% of homeless and runaway children come from fatherless homes.

These sobering facts and numbers underscore the importance of a father figure in the home. And not just one who provides for his family, but one who is also involved hands-on in raising his children. The Fatherhood Initiative points out that involved fathers translate into better performance in school and less likelihood of stress in small children or delinquent behavior as they grow up.

I hasten to interject that these stats and facts do not imply failure on the part of single mothers. On the contrary. Single mothers have the herculean task of simultaneously being father, mother, and breadwinner for their children and that is a heavy burden to carry.

 

By God’s design, a mother and father play complementary roles in providing nurture and discipline to their children, with the goal of them becoming stable and responsible members of society. The absence of a father means a lack of consistent teaching, modeling, and fostering discipline, respect for authority, and responsibility, with all the disastrous consequences highlighted above.

I have seen some of that first-hand. During my tenure as a law enforcement chaplain, I was sometimes called upon by municipal and county courts to meet with parents whose teenage and young adult children had frequent run-ins with the law. Many of them were diagnosed with Oppositional Defiance Disorder, which is extreme resistance to any type of authority, including parents, teachers, police officers, and even judges. I once remarked to an attending psychologist that it looked to me like Absent Dad Disorder, and he replied: “That’s exactly what that is.”

As believers and intercessors, we know that Satan attacks God’s designs for human life wherever and whenever he can. He knows that ripping families apart will result in the gradual decline of society in general. According to the US Census Bureau, 50% of marriages end in divorce. The divorce rate among Christians is much lower, but still high considering that God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). According to a study conducted by Shaunti Feldhahn in partnership with the Barna Research Group, cited in GotQuestions.org, the divorce rate among regular church attendees is around 30%. All those broken marriages result in broken homes and are a major contributor to children growing up without a father and developing emotional, psychological, behavioral, and anger issues.

The Bible provides ample truth and advice on God’s designs for marriage and parenthood, which means that Christians could set an example to a society that has largely turned away from God and has forgotten and neglected healthy family values. Not only do we possess knowledge of divine truth and wisdom, but also as people filled with the Holy Spirit Christian fathers have direct access to their Heavenly Father’s transforming work to make them effective in their earthly fatherhood. God desires to restore His design for family and fatherhood in us, and He has been working through men’s ministries and movements like Promise Keepers to make that happen.

Be that as it may, the fatherhood crisis, both inside and outside the church, is a battle that is far from over. In fact, it is intensifying as more and more young men grow up to be fathers without the benefit of having had a father as a role model.

That is something to pray into as we recognize Satan’s schemes to destroy mankind. Our echo of the Lord’s Prayer that God’s Kingdom come and His will be done on earth as it is in heaven (Matthew 6:10) includes the restoration of His design for fatherhood and family life, first in the people of His own possession (1 Peter 2:9) and then in society as eyes are opened to the need for divine intervention in the problems that underlie the violence, drug use, lawlessness, and psychological issues that abound.

Pray with me for:

  • The Church to re-emphasize the sanctity of Christian marriage and adequately teach the weight, beauty, and responsibilities of the covenant relationship He has designed, both to engaged couples preparing for marriage and to couples needing to strengthen their marriage.
  • The raising up of effective men’s ministries in churches to help equip single men, husbands, and fathers, strengthening them in their true identity, clarifying their roles, and deepening their commitment and understanding.
  • Christian men, both married and single, of all ages, to embrace the opportunity to be a mentor and encourager in a child’s life outside their own families – in school, in church, in the neighborhood, and clubs.
  • For awakening in the church to the need to pray for the strengthening of family values and the role of father among ourselves, and for a revival in the land that will call people into a relationship with their perfect Heavenly Father and a restoration of healthy family values.
  • For empowerment and expansion of men’s movements like Promise Keepers to come alongside the Church in effective ways to bolster men’s ministries.
  • For children in fatherless homes to turn to God to receive what earthly fathers could not give them.
  • For faithful fathers who have embraced their roles to be encouraged by their Heavenly Father with wisdom, love, patience, and affirmation.

“Father in Heaven, we unite in prayer for our earthly fathers today. Your heart must break for the children that grow up without a father. May they hear Your voice calling them to come to their Heavenly Father to give them what their earthly father could not. Strengthen the vision and commitment to fatherhood within Your Church and open the eyes in our society to realize the need for Your intervention in our fatherhood crisis and turn to You in repentance and search for help. Bless and affirm all those who are fathers. Give them wisdom, patience and love from the riches of your grace. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.”

How are you praying for an end to the culture of fatherlessness that plagues America? Share your thoughts and prayers below.

Author Remco Brommet is a pastor, spiritual growth teacher, and prayer leader with over 40 years’ experience in Europe, Southeast Asia, Africa, and the US. Born and raised in the Netherlands and pastoring his first church in Amsterdam, he moved to the US in 1986. He and his wife Jennifer currently live north of Atlanta, GA When not writing books, he blogs and assists his wife as content developer and prayer coordinator for True Identity Ministries. Jennifer and Remco are passionate about bringing people into a deeper relationship with Christ. Photo Credit: Szilvia Basso on Unsplash.

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James Greer
June 24, 2022

Since Sept 2012 when The Kingdom Age started our prayer every day has been, “I decree & declair ALL the children hooked to their mothers womb will become mighty for God and to usher in his Kingdom.”…ALL ALL ALL EVERY THING we see happening is ALL about The CHILDREN!!!!! A CHILD SHALL LEAD THEM!!!

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Zoe Ella
June 23, 2022

In “Brave New World” by Huxley (a book I strongly suggest everyone read to get an idea of where we may be headed if patterns do not change) children are born in a lab and raised in a nursery, without parents.
Men, if you have called a child into being in this world, it is both your privilege and responsibility to provide for, protect and teach that child. Do not neglect your responsibility.
Mothers, if you are single, do not attempt to disallow fathers from interacting with their children. If dads are neglecting to pay for their children, take them to court, but do not withhold the children; children are not hostages.
Another item on the subject is the chapter “Apology for Babies” in the book “The Voice from the Back Row” by Diane Drummond

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Howard olsen
June 23, 2022

The Christian Mens Network is doing as much if not more than any other organization to train men to be men. Keep them in your prayers as well.

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Jim L.
June 23, 2022

Oh Father send forth the Spirit of Elijah to turn the heart of the fathers to the children and the heart of the children to their fathers (Mal 4:6)

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michael t plato
June 23, 2022

I agree with everything stated except for the item you mentioned about Promise Keepers. I appreciate the basis of their beliefs but the problem for me is these are things that fathers should be doing anyway and not convening to congratulate themselves for a job well done. Instead of promoting a “look at me” persona, how about sending a message of “look at God”.

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Ann
June 23, 2022

Although my four children grew up without their father present and, by God’s Grace, are responsible adults today, they still suffer from his absence. As their mother, I see the damage in their emotions. Some have struggled in their faith walk, some in their own marriages, and some in their ability to trust.
I’m still praying for reconciliation in our family to fill the empty places in their hearts.

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    Les
    June 23, 2022

    I believe Christian marriages are in trouble because men are not brought up to be emotionally mature as well as spiritually mature. A marriage needs both. Submitting to one another and an emphasis on being partners more than a “lording-it-over” mentality.
    Father, show us how to grow up as men and women and fully rely on the Holy Spirit…for the sake of the children.

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Jannie
June 23, 2022

God, I pray for the kids in America who don’t have a father at home. May their brokenness be healed by You as You draw them to Yourself. Please keep them away from the snares of the devil and let them be filled with Your love! I pray for effective ministry in churches to meet the spiritual and practical needs of these broken families, and that they may find healing and reconciliation and forgiveness in Christ. In Jesus’ name, amen.

I really thought 18.5 million was a mistake… Heartbreaking.

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Susan CC
June 23, 2022

This message triggered memories. Many of my students qualified for special education services with the diagnosis of ODD, Oppositional Defiance Disorder. My “kids” were the educationally/behaviorally “challenged.” I too believe the desire of satan is to “destroy mankind.” I too have been praying “God’s Kingdom come and His will be done….where there will be a full restoration of His design for fatherhood and family life. I too pray “as a society our eyes will be opened to the need for divine intervention in the problems that underlie the violence, drug use, lawlessness, and psychological issues that abound.” I long for the unloved to hear:
“Don’t be afraid, I have called you by name; you’re Mine. When you go through deep waters, I’ll be with you. In times of difficulty, don’t be afraid, you’re precious to Me, you’re honored…I love you. There is NO other God, there never has been and never will be. I am the Lord and there is not another Savior. No one can snatch you out of My hand and no one can undo what I have done. You have been chosen to know Me and to believe in Me. You have been chosen to understand that I alone am God…I AM.” Isaiah 43 (personalized)

Dear Heavenly Father, I know fatherhood is a privilege. But to know Your love, the love of The Father, is incomparable! I pray from the “riches of Your Grace,” You will usher in a desire for the sanctity of Christian marriage. I pray from the “riches of Your Grace,” You will embrace the unloved. I pray from the “riches of Your Grace,” You will do what ONLY You can…transform lives and usher into salvation. I pray from the “riches of Your Grace,” my burden for children will be lifted. I pray from the “riches of Your Grace,” You will put to death all of those conditions creating so much pain in the lives of our children. Yes, I pray today Thy Will be done on earth as it is in Heaven. I ask this in the Name of our Savior, Jesus Christ. Amen

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    Julie
    June 23, 2022

    “I long for the unloved to hear:
    “Don’t be afraid, I have called you by name; you’re Mine. . .” ~ Isaiah 43″

    Amazing, Susan. If this isn’t the answer to every ill – ! What a lovely post and testimony. Just took my breath away.

    I learn so much from IFA intercessors!

    Praying in agreement, in Jesus’ Precious Name; amen!

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Tammy Beard
June 23, 2022

There has been a great burden on my heart to pray for the men and young boys in this world. That God would draw them in, closer to him and that they will stand strong and courageous, to be the men that God has called them to be. To lead the family just as God has designed. That he would humble them and empower them in all that they need to do. Raise up your mighty warriors Lord through the men in this world today! Amen

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AJ
June 23, 2022

Oh how my heart longs for the Church to support families and fathers and not “compete” with this mission! Somewhere in the past couple of decades, the Church has lost its vision with being so event-driven, entertainment-focused, and seeker-friendly to its demise. We have unfortunately left families, and especially fathers, on the back burner in our attempts to be “relevant”. Oh how we need the Holy Spirit of God to revive our hearts and our young people! These kids don’t need another bounce house at church, and churches don’t need to be glorified babysitters.
Lord, please shake Your Church with Your Spirit so families are revived and renewed and fathers come into their role with intentionality and fortitude. Forgive the Church for its attitude that has hurt rather than helped and healed. Draw families together and not apart. By Your Spirit and through Jesus Christ alone…Amen.

Thank you for posting this article.

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