Abort the Court

I’m sorry, Mary, you do not fully understand the issue, to call it selfishness – though you are right that there is very often fear involved and lack of information. Many women are not the ones being selfish. I know multiple women who have had actual forced abortions. One woman now middle-aged, had a forced abortion at age 17. She and her fiancé had a plan that he would go to job training so that he would have a job and could return to support her when it was time for the baby to be born. She wanted her baby, was about 5 months pregnant, but her mom made the appointment for an abortion because the pregnancy was considered an embarrasment. The young woman went to the clinic fully intending to simply tell them she did not consent for an abortion. But because she was under age, and her mom paid for an abortion, she was pushed down on the table, forcibly sedated an restrained after telling the staff, “I do not consent, I want my baby.” This happens to young women when the parents don’t want their first grandchild, but it also often happens in cases of domestic violence and in human trafficking. The majority of women who are trafficked having multiple abortions, and some of them forced, though even in that circumstance many women want their children, and sometimes have them. In a research study, one formerly trafficked woman said she had had 17 abortions and that some were “forced.” But – in a trafficking situation even if it is perceived as a choice by the woman, whether or not she is even permitted to eat, and what she wears is up to the trafficker, so for a woman to have 17 abortions while being trafficked, I don’t think you could say any were a true choice. But it is not only in trafficking. There are many more commonplace domestic violence situations in which the man decides that he doesn’t want the child and enforces his wishes with violence. Fortunately, pro-life pregnancy centers are having their staff trained to try to identify and help women who are being trafficked or who are in a situation of domestic violence / reproductive coercion. The perky women on TV who are happy about having a choice who serve in promotional videos for abortion “rights” do not actually represent the majority of women. The majority of women bond to the child during the pregnancy, and would prefer to have their child if they had emotional support, knowledge of where to go for help, and having things they need. There are 2,700 pro-life pregnancy centers in the US that can help women to get everything they need from emotional support to free diapers to information on how to get a daycare voucher, how to get free healthcare for pregnancy and delivery, and free housing if needed at a maternity home while they finish school or find a job. The Center Against Forced Abortion helps women to avoid forced abortion – here: https://thejusticefoundation.org/cafa/ Btw, the 17 year old who had a forced abortion? That is illegal in all 50 states – even young women, even minors, have the legal right to say no to an unwanted abortion of a loved and wanted child. And information on pro-life pregnancy centers and some of the ways they can help is here: https://lozierinstitute.org/fact-sheet-pregnancy-centers-serving-women-and-saving-lives-2020/ For women seeking help, they can go to optionline.org to find a local center in their area. There are 2,700 pregnancy centers providing free services and giving out many free resources throughout the US.

Many women suffer greatly because of their abortions. Even women who had forced abortions often feel guilt that they did not fight hard enough for their little one – even when truly there was nothing they could have done, in some situations. (Some women have actually been murdered when they have refused abortions, murdered by the baby’s father). For those who want help, emotionally and spiritually, after abortion, one good resource is “SaveOne.” This is a Christian support program through which women can receive the healing and forgiveness that Jesus desires for them. Almost every SaveOne leader has one or more abortions in her past, and has received healing from Jesus. Sheila Harper, the founder of this organization and the author of their Bible study titled “SaveOne” had an abortion herself, and almost killed herself because of her guilt and distress – had the gun in her hand to shoot herself but was interrupted – and later found healing of her distress through Jesus Christ. That gift is extended to others through SaveOne. Those contacting SaveOne through http://www.saveone.org can look for a local group in their area, but also can request to have a leader to meet with them by zoom or phone one-on-one to go through the workbook with them. They will have a leader who has personally experienced abortion in the past who does not judge them. There is no judging in SaveOne. I think often of Jesus and the woman caught in adultery – in the Scripture, he says “neither do I condemn you” – he doesn’t want to condemn anyone but to heal and restore. Anyone can get the workbook to work through it individually, which can be bought through the website, but it’s intended to be done in a small group, and since Covid, one-on-one by zoom or phone as an alternative to the small group, in-person meetings. For those who want to understand more regarding the many women who are distressed after their abortion, Sheila Harper’s book “Survivor” also available at the website, tells the story of her experience in having the abortion, all that she experienced afterward, through discovering the love and forgiveness of Jesus who has healed her.

I saw the post about re-focusing on “who is in the womb.” There are two truths that dovetail here. The truth of the child, made in God’s image, and the truth of the woman also made in God’s image as we all are. The reality is that the majority of women begin to bond to their children even during early pregnancy, and a majority would not have an abortion if even one person in their life encouraged or supportive them in giving life. But to the contrary, parents as well as teachers, doctors, nurses, social workers, and often the baby’s father pressure toward abortion. Normally, when a woman is married, her own mother will say, “How wonderful you are pregnant! A grandchild! Can I help you to paint the nursery? Can I go shopping with you for things you will use for the baby? Can I give you a baby shower?” But for a single mom, there is a terrible fear – how will I do this? How can I care for a baby?” when the baby’s father may say he doesn’t want to pay child support (though in reality, he would have to) but worse, he may say, “I will never love that child,” and the woman naturally is afraid of being 100% alone and unsupported. The truth is, she can’t do this 100% on her own. Thus, to take care of that child in the womb, we must have tender hearts toward the mother – the best interests of the mother and the child are entirely intertwined, and in most cases, with love and support, women want to have their child. If you want to promote love of life, start an Embrace Grace group at your church if you can – Embrace Grace starts with women who have already experienced motherhood, moms with wisdom and experience and love for life, who lead a Bible study, and the girls receive love and emotional support from leaders and from each other, plus practical help like church members providing gifts for a baby shower, and – the girls have a connection to a church that welcomes them. These are meant to be done through churches so that each mother has a church home. After the baby is born, there are more Bible studies to keep going and growing as new moms. You can find videos on you tube in which Embrace Grace young women give their testimonies, and some of their stories are told in the book “A Bump in Life” by Amy Ford. If you want to start an Embrace Grace group at your church, google Embrace Grace and contact them through the webpage. The materials are provided after an application is completed – there has to be a church involved and the pastor has to be supportive. I will say, throughout human history, there has never been a woman who created her child entirely on her own with no help from anyone else (i.e. there is always a mother and a father involved in making a baby), and no woman ever raised a child entirely on her own either- there were always other women to help, besides normally the support of a father. Today, a big part of the problem is, the existence of abortion gives everyone else the idea that they have no responsibility in this – if a woman doesn’t have a way to take care of the child, then she should get an abortion, is how many people view this. People don’t come around to give support. Yet there are sources for support, if only women even knew – 2700 pro-life pregnancy centers in the US that offer all kinds of help, and someone who cares to provide emotional support, as well as free diapers and bathy clothes, and free parenting classes. Maternity homes that will provide a home for a woman and her baby while she finds a job or finishes college. And a growing number of Embrace Grace groups in churches, though many more are needed. No woman should having a baby alone. That is a new thing in our generation that “you’re on your own,” “if you don’t want a baby, have an abortion.” How about an Embrace Grace at your church so that she has a church home and know she has people she can count on, so she’s NOT having this alone.

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